Game player dating
It appears as though as though your partner has all the strength.
But it's just the opposite -- real power is the ability to maintain intimacy. Power and strength of this caliber have no fear of being honest and direct.
A hot and cold player reverts to cold as the norm, with bursts of hot that don't result in forward movement.
The root cause of this behavior is a desperate attempt to gain control over the uncontrollable; love. But the partner, who's committed to playing safe, will never allow himself or herself to experience love.
It's long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you're standing on shaky ground.
This is the core thinking of the partner who initiates hot/cold, and serves as their safety net to vulnerability. Because relationship uncertainty makes human beings yearn for stability.
Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you'll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.
A player is usually very deceptive and manipulative.
The beautiful truth is that this has nothing to do with you. There's nothing you did, or didn't do, that's causing this.
Don't let your friends analyze your situation and convince you otherwise.
The aim of a player is to win your affection, and the marker they use to judge that this is happened is often that the relationship has become sexual – they have made their conquest.
For others, it’ll be when you say you love them or, in extreme cases, agree to marry them.